“To burn with desire and keep quiet about it is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.” ― Federico García
"It is a risk to love. What if it doesn't work out? Ah, but what if it does." - Peter McWilliams
frankly, i have never been a fan of valentines day.
it is simply a holiday for every single person to be reminded of just how single they are.
yet, here i am writing an incredibly sappy post on love, just in time.
to some i maybe unfortunate, and to others whom may have endured a broken heart, i maybe fortunate when i say that i have never truly fallen in love.
although i have never experienced falling in love firsthand, i can say with confidence (and most likely many people would agree) that falling in love is one of the best things that can ever happen to a person in their lifetime.
yet, i can also say that love can also be one of the worst things that can happen to a person.
it is simply a holiday for every single person to be reminded of just how single they are.
yet, here i am writing an incredibly sappy post on love, just in time.
to some i maybe unfortunate, and to others whom may have endured a broken heart, i maybe fortunate when i say that i have never truly fallen in love.
although i have never experienced falling in love firsthand, i can say with confidence (and most likely many people would agree) that falling in love is one of the best things that can ever happen to a person in their lifetime.
yet, i can also say that love can also be one of the worst things that can happen to a person.
as the topic of love has always been a curiosity of mine, i often wonder how that can possibly be.
how is it that two things, at such extremes, be true in a love-struck heart?
that love can be the best and worst thing to happen to someone?
but when i put the two together, i realized it makes absolute sense.
yes, love may come at the cost of a gut-wrenching heartbreak that may make a piece of a heart forever broken, but does that completely damage the perfect and whole idea of a man and woman loving each other for the rest of their lives?
no.
never.
because without the heartbreak and anger and endless crying, there is no love.
there would be no reason for anger or tears over something that didn’t matter.
there is no lively presence without the feeling of being ghostlike after something ends.
there is no reason to smile at a beautiful sunny day if there is never the rain to make us appreciate the bright and brilliant sun.
love is simply not possible without the contradictory; hate, jealousy, fear, vulnerability.
there can never be a great love without the risk of a great loss.
so what is the point in all of this comparing and contrasting?
the point is to go and love.
love everyone. love everything.
love when nothing goes right, because there is always the chance it just might work out in your favor.
love someone when all they have done is wrong you, because you never know if they will come around one day, just because of you.
love when you have nothing left in you, because that will be the very thing that will fill you again.
and lastly, don’t ever be afraid to love that one person who will always have a piece of your heart… after all, you never know if you have a piece of theirs.
how is it that two things, at such extremes, be true in a love-struck heart?
that love can be the best and worst thing to happen to someone?
but when i put the two together, i realized it makes absolute sense.
yes, love may come at the cost of a gut-wrenching heartbreak that may make a piece of a heart forever broken, but does that completely damage the perfect and whole idea of a man and woman loving each other for the rest of their lives?
no.
never.
because without the heartbreak and anger and endless crying, there is no love.
there would be no reason for anger or tears over something that didn’t matter.
there is no lively presence without the feeling of being ghostlike after something ends.
there is no reason to smile at a beautiful sunny day if there is never the rain to make us appreciate the bright and brilliant sun.
love is simply not possible without the contradictory; hate, jealousy, fear, vulnerability.
there can never be a great love without the risk of a great loss.
so what is the point in all of this comparing and contrasting?
the point is to go and love.
love everyone. love everything.
love when nothing goes right, because there is always the chance it just might work out in your favor.
love someone when all they have done is wrong you, because you never know if they will come around one day, just because of you.
love when you have nothing left in you, because that will be the very thing that will fill you again.
and lastly, don’t ever be afraid to love that one person who will always have a piece of your heart… after all, you never know if you have a piece of theirs.
sincerely,
a closet romantic, S
